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Grad School Burnout

In our society quitting is looked upon as a weakness. It’s a bad thing to do and you are weak if you quit. You should finish everything you start, no matter what. We all hear these comments and we all think these thoughts. It’s just the world we live in but you know what, it’s ok to quit or take a break…
Grad School Burnout

I have always been an overachiever. I put the pressure on myself to do everything perfectly. From work, to school, to my personal life…I put tons of pressure on myself to do it just right. It’s not very surprising that I was overworked and stressed out for the last few months.

Naturally, after getting my Bachelor’s degree, I wanted my Master’s degree, but I wasn’t quite sure what field I would work in for the long haul. I put it off for a few years and now I’ve been in the same field for over 6 years so of course, it was time for me to get that Master’s. It’s not a decision I came to lightly and I was secretly planning it for about a year. I enrolled earlier this year in an online Master’s program (hence the blogging hiatus). I now have two classes under my belt and a 4.0 average so why did I take a break?

The stress and pressure finally broke me down, and I wanted my life back. The first class was great. I enjoyed it and felt I learned a lot from it but that second class? Totally different ball game. This class involved a team project (I know how much every student loves those) and let’s just say certain team members didn’t show up for the game and then plagiarized a la Melania Trump style. (No judgment if you support Trump and that’s not a comment on who I support or don’t support FYI)

My everyday thoughts were consumed with freaking out over school. I was staying up at night thinking about it and stressing out way more than is acceptable for myself.

I just wasn’t happy anymore and my happiness is a priority. Everyone’s own happiness should be a priority. I missed the time I had for blogging, reading books, working out, having girl’s nights, and binge-watching Netflix with the hubby. I’m willing to sacrifice certain things but I was more stressed than I’ve ever been at any point in my life. The career path I’m going down doesn’t require a Master’s and it’s pretty damn expensive too.

My happiness and sanity are much more important to me than anything else. So, for now, I’m not admitting that I quit, damn societal norms, but I am taking a break. I may go back or I may not. It’s up to me. I’m free to change my mind and I am OK with that.

What have you taken a break from in your life?

What stresses you out the most?

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13 Comments

  • Reply Fiona Benjamin

    Ugh I totally feel you on the burnout. I recently just dissolved my business of 5 years because I no longer loved it :/ This post is an awesome reminder that I’m allowed to ask for a break. Thank you!

    August 8, 2016 at 7:38 AM
  • Reply Aisiah Ezekyel

    I understand the feeling. I’m a CPA and they all think I can do everything to a point that people at work left me to organize an entire event, expected me to attend the after party when I actually have a solo presentation and exam to prepare for the next day with an hours of sleep. Sometimes you just have to stop. Then maybe you’ll miss it and when you go back, you’ll be just as excited when you were planning your first day at school. ^_^

    August 8, 2016 at 7:49 AM
  • Reply Lindsay

    So well said! I relate to some of what you wrote. After 3 years of college, I decided to quit, which was shocking as I was (almost) always a 4.0 student who enjoyed school. Looking back now, I wish I had made that same investment into my business several years earlier and opted out of college all together. I don’t use any of now and I don’t need a degree to work for myself. You are so right about being happy! Life is too short to stress. There are many paths to success, not just one.

    August 8, 2016 at 9:21 AM
  • Reply Ailie

    I did two years of university, then dropped out because I really didn’t enjoy it. I got a job for a year to figure out exactly what I wanted to do with my life. After pressure from my parents I decided to give university a second shot. Didn’t like it any better this time round, but I felt guilty because my parents had spent so much in fees, and I didn’t want to disappoint them again. I managed to struggle through four years, and ended up with a drug addiction and eating disorder at the end of it. Sometimes it’s best to quit when you know something isn’t working out for you, and there’s absolutely no shame in that.

    August 8, 2016 at 10:15 AM
  • Reply Shannon

    Sounds like you made the right decision then! I almost went back to school for vet tech full time, but decided to continue taking 1 class at a time to see how it goes- I was not willing, like you, to give up so much free time and money. It is a lot of sacrifices. What is your career now?

    August 8, 2016 at 10:21 AM
  • Reply Jordan

    Girl! I get it. I took a semester off just to breath again. Even undergrad is challenging. Be proud of your accomplishments thus far and that you have control over your life to be able to take a step back or forward!

    August 8, 2016 at 2:37 PM
    • Reply Krystal

      Sometimes a semester off is very much needed!

      August 12, 2016 at 9:08 AM
  • Reply inspadesblog

    Congrats on coming to a decision that supports where you’re at and what you need right now. I too, think it’s a shame that our society puts so much pressure on anything but a conventional path. It’s okay to press pause and determine what’s right for you. Kudos!
    Kali

    August 9, 2016 at 12:53 AM
  • Reply Danielle N. Salmon

    OMG I am totally here with you on this. I was in grad school and working and the burn out came on so fast and was unbearable. I finished, but to be honest if I had quit I wouldn’t have been mad at myself. It’s a lot on you emotionally and if you don’t take some time for yourself it’ll come out later.

    Danielle | http://www.FollowMyGut.com <3

    August 9, 2016 at 12:00 PM
  • Reply Healthwealthbridge by Dr.Amrita Basu

    It’s okay to quit when you can’t take it anymore.I haven’t quit studies (that were raking me where I wanted to go),but I have quit certain relationships because they were making me stressed, unhappy; out if control. Life really is too short to waste time on things that don’t matter.In India where I live even basic education is a blessing.I sincerely believe in employable ,useful quality education.
    If your masters programme is not giving you any added benefit plus making you unhappy. You did the best thing for yourself.Thanks for sharing.

    August 10, 2016 at 7:40 AM
  • Reply Arvin

    Well said “happiness and sanity are much more important”, I have often thought about moving on from my stressful Job, your post is an inspiration.Time to make my happiness is a priority.

    August 10, 2016 at 11:21 AM
  • Reply Irene

    This is so inspiring! I love the post:)

    irenethayer.com

    August 12, 2016 at 4:45 PM
    • Reply Krystal

      Thank you. I’m glad it’s able to inspire you 🙂

      August 15, 2016 at 9:51 AM

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